Your quiz responses suggest that you have a SECURE friendship attachment style.
Secure friends are comfortable being emotionally intimate and conveying interest and affection, but are also comfortable being independent and self-reliant. They conduct their interpersonal relationships with healthy boundaries.
This type of friendship attachment style likely makes you a terrific friend.Sound familiar? Here are some tips for staying on a secure path:·
- Remember that just because you are able to get along with many different types of people doesn’t mean you are obligated to be everyone’s friend. If you are not happy in a friendship, especially after having tried to make things work, it is okay to step back.
- If you start to feel jealous, distrusting, worried, reluctant to express your honest feelings, or notice yourself holding back or playing games in a friendship, take this as a big red flag that this might not be a healthy friendship for you.
- If you experience or have experienced the loss of a friendship, remind yourself that your belief system isn’t to blame, and focus on taking extra good care of yourself while you heal.
Source: Levine, A. & Heller, R. Attached (2010). New York, NY: Penguin.
Gina Davis, PsyD 