Tag: boundaries
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You Can Care About a Dismissive Avoidant’s Pain…And Still Have Needs
Inspired by a post from @real_laurenmarie Related: Read my full article on Avoidant Attachment in Friendship here Many people who love someone with a dismissive-avoidant attachment style feel torn between empathy for the avoidant person’s history and loyalty to their own emotional needs. You may understand where the other person’s distancing comes from. You may…
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The people-pleaser’s guide to speaking up.
A lot of the clients I work with have been taught not to “rock the boat” in relationships, meaning they’ve received and currently implement some version(s) of the following instructions: Don’t rock the boat by setting boundaries, because people will think your’e selfish. Don’t rock the boat by asking for what you want, you’ll only…
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How to set & hold a boundary.
One of the most frequent issues that come up in my work with therapy clients is boundaries: How to recognize when boundaries are needed, how to set them, maintain them, not feel guilty for having them, and the list goes on! Boundaries are the limits and rules you set for yourself within relationships. In order…