Managing Performance Review Anxiety: Ten Guidelines for Women in Tech

2020 is less than a month away! With the end of the year (and decade) comes new chapters, new beginnings, as well as evaluations and reflections on the past six months (or “half” as they say in the tech world) at work. Performance reviews are a special season unto themselves, and they can create quiteContinue reading “Managing Performance Review Anxiety: Ten Guidelines for Women in Tech”

Surviving the Holiday Work Party When You Have Social Anxiety

The holidays are approaching and we all know what that means! Holiday work parties! For many, it’s a time to eat, drink and be merry with reckless abandon. For those with social anxiety, it’s a blight on the calendar, a “do I really have to?” and “maybe I just won’t go?” cringe-fest. As someone whoContinue reading “Surviving the Holiday Work Party When You Have Social Anxiety”

“Thought Records Don’t Work on Me.” The Second Secret Weapon That Interrupts Distorted Thinking

“Thought records don’t work on me.” Wanna know who said that? Me. So why did I write an entire post on how to complete a thought record last week? Because they’re an extremely important tool that can help you challenge distorted thoughts. 100 percent. AND… A thought record is not a magic pill that willContinue reading ““Thought Records Don’t Work on Me.” The Second Secret Weapon That Interrupts Distorted Thinking”

Using Thought Records to Challenge Distorted Thinking: A Step-By-Step Guide

A thought record is a major tool in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) that guides us, step by step, through the process of challenging distorted, automatic thoughts. If you’ve been following my recent blog posts, you’ll know that in order to even recognize automatic thoughts as they’re occurring, you first need to practice mindfulness. You’ll alsoContinue reading “Using Thought Records to Challenge Distorted Thinking: A Step-By-Step Guide”

A Distorted Reality is NOT a Necessity to Be Free: How Cognitive Distortions Hold You Back

Sorry, Elliott Smith. I’ve been a huge fan of yours for ages, but in this post I’m going to talk about how our distorted thoughts make us anything but free. In last week’s post, I introduced the concept of automatic thoughts and explained the CBT principle that our thoughts lead to emotions, and emotions leadContinue reading “A Distorted Reality is NOT a Necessity to Be Free: How Cognitive Distortions Hold You Back”

Harnessing the Power of Automatic Thoughts

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) operates on the general principle that our thoughts influence our feelings, and our feelings influence our behaviors. Thoughts –> Feelings –> Behaviors For example, a person could have the thought: “I suck at my job.” This creates feelings of sadness, anger, hopelessness. Now in this negative emotional state, in the personContinue reading “Harnessing the Power of Automatic Thoughts”

Ten Strategies for Finishing Your Thesis or Dissertation (On Time!)

In last week’s post, I shared about my own experience writing a 165-page dissertation in graduate school, and talked about some of the common pitfalls students face when jumping this huge academic hurdle. It’s such a stressful, anxiety-provoking, long-term challenge, and everyone responds to the pressure in different ways. In fact, many people…don’t finish theirContinue reading “Ten Strategies for Finishing Your Thesis or Dissertation (On Time!)”

GET STARTED: Mindfulness Meditation for Writing Your Thesis or Dissertation

Ten years ago, I found myself sitting in a small room with my dissertation chair and five classmates, each of us practically squirming in our plastic seats with anticipation and anxiety.  It was our very first meeting, and it was time for us to go around the room and tell everyone about our intended dissertationContinue reading “GET STARTED: Mindfulness Meditation for Writing Your Thesis or Dissertation”

Shut Up & Dance: Lessons on Mindfulness from a Pop Song

Photo credit: “Dancing in the Street 4” by Petr Dosek is licensed under CC BY 2.0 As a psychologist and pop culture lover, I love it when a piece of pop culture – say, a popular song – allows me to explain a psychological concept. The song Shut Up and Dance by Walk the Moon is a songContinue reading “Shut Up & Dance: Lessons on Mindfulness from a Pop Song”