Distress Tolerance Skills for Healthier Relationships

If you identify as a person with an insecure (i.e. anxious, avoidant, or fearful) attachment style and have decided to begin your healing journey, you’re going to encounter some challenging emotions. Change is never easy, even when it’s positive, and it’s normal to feel overwhelmed, defeated, or just plan uncomfortable as you heal your attachmentContinue reading “Distress Tolerance Skills for Healthier Relationships”

You Can Choose Your Friends (Yes, Really!)

When determining whether to pursue a romantic relationship, people often tend towards vigilance, looking out for signs of “red flags,” “settling” and indicators of incompatibility or “deal breakers.” When it comes to friendship, however, many of us take a much more relaxed approach. We know it’s important to choose our friends wisely. My grandmother alwaysContinue reading “You Can Choose Your Friends (Yes, Really!)”

Secure Attachment in Friendship

There are four relationship attachment styles: Anxious, Avoidant, Fearful, and Secure. In my last three posts, I discussed how anxious, avoidant, and fearful attachment styles can show up in the context of friendship. In today’s post, I’ll discuss the secure attachment style in friendship. Secure Attachment & Friendship: Secure friends are comfortable being emotionally intimateContinue reading “Secure Attachment in Friendship”

Fearful Attachment in Friendship

There are four relationship attachment styles: Anxious, Avoidant, Fearful, and Secure. In my last two posts, I discussed anxious attachment and avoidant attachment styles in friendship. In today’s post, I’ll discuss the fearful attachment style and how it show up within the context of friendship. Fearful Attachment in Friendship: Have you ever been told youContinue reading “Fearful Attachment in Friendship”

Avoidant Attachment in Friendship

There are four relationship attachment styles: Anxious, Avoidant, Fearful, and Secure In my last post, I wrote about anxious attachment in friendship. This week, I’ll discuss the avoidant attachment style and how it manifests within the context of friendship. Avoidant Attachment in Friendship: Have you ever been told you have “a wall up” been calledContinue reading “Avoidant Attachment in Friendship”

Have You Connected With Someone Today?

I live in the San Francisco Bay Area, and as you may know, my hometown has been ordered to shelter-in-place until at least April 7. We’re the first in the country to do this. I’m not going to lie. This is a scary and uncertain time. Over the past week, I’ve observed (and experienced) intense fear, sadnessContinue reading “Have You Connected With Someone Today?”