Anxious Attachment in Friendship

There are four relationship attachment styles: Anxious, Avoidant, Fearful, and Secure. Over the next few weeks, I am going to discuss the four different attachment styles, starting with Anxious attachment, and discuss how each attachment style manifests, specifically within the context of friendship. Anxious Attachment in Friendship: Have you ever been told that you areContinue reading “Anxious Attachment in Friendship”

“Sometimey” Friends

What are we to do about “sometimey” friends? I learned the term “sometimey friends” from my grandmother many years ago. The definition is pretty self-explanatory, but for the sake of this blog post: A sometimey friend is a friend who is…sometimes your friend and…sometimes not. A friend who sometimes wants to hang out and sometimesContinue reading ““Sometimey” Friends”

The Challenges of Adult Friendships

I do a lot of clinical work with middle school students. Friendship is a major component of life in middle school, and in both my clinical and personal experience, friendship at this stage of life is usually accompanied by a LOT of ups and downs. There are dramas, fights, hurt feelings, competition, mean-spirited rumors, cliques,Continue reading “The Challenges of Adult Friendships”

How Connected Are You, Really?

Years ago (circa 2010), I resisted buying a smart phone because I didn’t want to feel too “connected” to others. I didn’t want to see my emails as they arrived in my inbox all day long. I didn’t want to be able to browse Facebook while I rode the BART train. Having a cell phoneContinue reading “How Connected Are You, Really?”